In the beginning it was all about what can I do for you, how can I help you and I give everything for you. As year after year pass, the tendency to forget that we are two individuals that share a comin goal in life becomes more apparent.
Two become one flesh, leave your mother and father to join in marriage, what does it all mean?
Jesus said “love your wife as I loved the church”, well that is a tall order considering he gave his life for the church.
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself”
So if that doesn’t make you feel 2 inches tall nothing will. Stepping back and looking at this from a selfless point of view and not a “what can I gain from selflessly loving her is what I’m refocusing on.
“Good marriages are not dependent upon perfection, but they are dependent upon willingness to acknowledge our wrong and seek forgiveness.”
When she falls, help her up. When she hurts, bless her by comforting her. When she fails, know she is human.
As a man or is my duty to love endlessly, forgive fully, bless selflessly and until my last breath my work is not complete. Seeing that just because we are Christian, we still sin and her dreams don’t have to be mine.
To bless her in the mess of life and to forgive when I don’t feel like forgiving. To love, is to live as two broke souls with one common vow and to accept failure as another opportunity to try again.