Love isn’t supposed to answer all your questions, it is not designed to make you into someone better nor fix life’s issues; It is a mutual partnership between great friends that have decided to make a commitment to remain best friends until the end of their lives. My advice is to use curiosity as one of the guides for love, remain curious about one another, seek to know each other deeper, more intimately and openly.
Over the last couple weeks I have set off on a new journey to be open, honest and life giving (to name a few) and I noticed something very quickly, you get what you give. If you give 75% to someone that in turn places a limit on the amount you can receive from them.
Until now others were lucky to get a small portion of that 75% that I was willing to give. I can for the first time in my life say I am ready to give 100% to my wife, friends and family.
I have had it wrong for far too long and I thank God for the gift of grace that my wife has been given. We recently had our first “very tough obstacle” with one of our children and going into our talk together I was nervous about how either of us would enter into this tough area with our child. I had no idea how to open up the discussion and certainly didn’t know what to say. When my wife began to speak and open her heart I saw very quickly that this was not my time to say anything, her words, emotion, clarity speaking into the situation rendered me speechless. The love and vulnerability poured from her like a waterfall and I have never been so proud of my wife for how she showed up to a seemingly impossible situation and nailed it.
I said to her after “you showed up as a perfect example of a mother”.
I am proud to have such an amazing woman by my side and I am blessed far beyond what I deserve for how I have treated her in the past.
On her wrist is a tattoo that says χαρις, it means grace in Greek and words fail to explain the depth of what the tattoo represents in her life. I am adding one thing to my journey and that is to make an effort to show my appreciation for who she is and everything she has to offer our family. Today I am humbled and proud that she chose me of the millions of people on this planet.
THAT, is a gift that deserves my 100% dedication to our commitment.