To Capture Life



The Circle of Influence


“The issue with internet quotes is that you can never be certain they’re authentic.” – Matthew Brady 

Matthew was a very intelligent man, this is true and not everything you read is the truth, even if it’s beautifully written, correct punctuation, and the words almost jump off the page into your heart, you must still use judgment when reading.

Mathew Brady was a 19th-century photographer best known for his Civil War photography and portraits. He died in 1896 in a charity ward, 87 years before the internet was released.

I posted a short writing a few hours ago and it was brought to my attention by a friend that there may be an issues with the writing. Thank you kind sir, and as I read my text it hit me, almost everything we read, we see, we feel and we hold so dearly to our hearts as an original idea is most likely just something we have already heard, seen or modified just enough to call it our own.

The quote was by “Emerson Mastery” he went on to explain that it was Ronald E. Osborn who said the quote originally.  Emerson was more popular at the time, so it was attributed to him. I also did some investigation of my own, and came to the same conclusion using a website called (quote  and as I was browsing the amazingly intelligent internet and came across an article that sparked my interest.

It was from and its heading was (1oo most influential people) so naturally I opened the article only to find the first picture listed in the 100 most influential people was Kanye West. Ok, I’m not going to jump on the Kanye bash bandwagon, that is not my goal for this; it just shocked me that he made the list, but I’m not surprised.

My point of all this is to share that just because I write does not make what I say any more true than anyone else. They may have a pretty face, they may speak very well, hold the highest level of integrity in your eyes or seem to have a perfect life and everyone is human.

I’m not saying do not look up to others and find inspiration in what they say or do, I’m saying have some discernment when changing your views and actions according to what they say or do, use common sense and ask question, challenge what they say, and seek the truth for yourself.

Here is an example and I am in no way comparing these two!

Adolf Hitler:

An Austrian-born German politician who was the leader of the Nazi Party, Chancellor of Germany from 1933 to 1945, and Führer of Nazi Germany from 1934 to 1945 hundreds of thousands of followers all to believe he was right in his actions.

Make the lie big, make it simple, keep saying it, and eventually they will believe it.” – Adolf Hitler

Thomas Jefferson:

An American Founding Father who was principal author of the Declaration of Independence. He was elected the second Vice President of the United States and the third President. While his was in office there were approximately 5,308,483 US citizens that helped shape what we see today.

“I hold it, that a little rebellion, now and then, is a good thing, and as necessary in the political world as storms in the physical” – Thomas Jefferson

Continue to Grow

Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Mastery should never feel it has been achieved, even the top pro athletes strive to reach new levels of accomplishments in their careers. If you believe you have arrived at the finish line in anything your growth has stopped, never stop growing and more importantly never dismiss an opportunity for transformation. I am not who I was yesterday and I am not who I will become tomorrow.

To Live in a World Devoted to Destruction


My heart goes out to all the people that lost their lives last night and all the families that now have to suffer because of the actions of a man who has no vale of human life. With that said, I do not want to lose the joy I have in my life. I spent yesterday and late last night on an adventure with 5 of the most wonderful girls in my life in one of the biggest cities I have seen. The fun times, laughter and even a time of panic when I realized I had no idea where I parked the truck filled my mind and heart as I fell asleep. Everything I had in my mind and heart became completely forgotten when I began browsing social media this morning after waking up.  All those experiences we all shared last night could have been stolen by the flood of emotions I gave to a man that decided to go on a shooting spree, and for most of the morning they have been. My conversations should have been about last night, the goofy things we did, the funny people we saw and the memories we made together, instead I left all that out as I chatted about death and destruction.

I am not saying to overlook what has happen, but to find a level of control with the energy given to the situation. My morning was filled with emotions over the tragedy that occurred last night while I was out making memories with my loved ones, what good are those memories if they become lost in the destruction that surrounds us daily.  Pray for those who lost their lives to such a horrific crime and celebrate today with our loved ones that surround us. Do not let fear steal our joy or anxieties overtake hope for beauty in life.

Loving The Little Things In Life


Something inside of me wants to say “bah humbug” to Valentine’s Day.

Yes, today is Valentine’s Day, and I had a great day today! Romance in the air, cards and chocolate being given, hugs and kisses from my loved ones and yet I feel a little “blah” towards today.

I love any reason to have a romantic day however today feels a little too planned for me. I feel a little bitter towards the halmark routine feelings of today.

So much has changed over the last year, I feel the ups and downs becoming less and less frequent and the blah feelings beginning to be a distant memory.

Today I had the opportunity to spend the morning with my lovely girlfriend and the evening with my two daughters. This is life, and the idea of normal is not something I would ever desire again.

Seeing that normal is a word we should never use again and life is full of ambivalence.

I do not regret the past, nor do I regret one single action in my life. It has lead me to where I am right now. What I have experienced, If it was hard, I learned something from it and it was easy it was easy because I have learned how to handle the situation better.

Today I am learning to rest in what I have learned from the hard times I have seen over the last few years. I’m thankful for so many people in my life today and also thankful for those people that are no longer in my life.

Every relationship I have had was for a reason, good or bad, a lesson to learn, what to do or what not to do they all served a purpose in my life, some were small influences and some were huge.

“No partner in a loving relationship should feel that he or she has to give up an essential part of themselves to make it viable.” – May Sarton

I would love nothing more than to see how my future turns out and there is nothing in the world that would make me give up this moment right now or to overlook what today was.

I have heard the saying “live in the moment” well, I am living in the moments much more than I ever have and I love what those little moments do to my heart, especially when the person you have to share them with understands the hardships in life. My heart is full and I hope you all have a Happy Valentine’s Day!

Feel every moment, experience life as it comes and never take anything for granted.