Let It Burn

Yup, woke up way before I wanted to, laying in bed trying to enjoy day 1 of my 10 day vacation, nope my body says get up and at least walk.

Here I am walking and writing.

This will be short, I just wanted to get out what I noticed in my weight over the last month. I have been between 196 and 194. Up and down, up and down..

my weight has always looked more like a wave than anything.

Well I noticed something strange, the day I started my IF my weight spiked to 200.5 lbs (91 kg) for no reason other than I began something.

I haven’t changed anything other than the IF, no diet change, no supplament change, no weight routine change.

It has to be my body adjusting. Well today I was shocked to see I was 192.4 (87 kg) lower than my normal dip. Here is a graph of my normal weight fluctuations and you can clearly see something is happening.

I was shocked after last night’s birthday celebration for my girlfriends daughter.

Amazing Lasagna, Crack bread and ice-cream cake.. I was sure I would have jumped due to the carb and sugar increase. Nope, I’m still dropping weight.

I can’t explain how I feel other than to say I feel like I have lived in a fog for years and now can think clearly. My body seems to be responding very well to this IF.

Oh, one more thing.

I was helping with the dishes and I swear I turned into spiderman for a second. A very large mixing bowl  (glass) slipped out of my hands and fell, I CAUGHT IT.. I caught something I dropped. Um, it seems my reflexes are very sharp, and I’m not saying it’s the IF, I’m also not sure why so much has changed. 


Intermittent Fasting, Burn That Belly


I have decided to add a menu page in my Real Life blog about fitness, is a large part of my life so why not.

The reason I’m posting is because I have been on a fitness journey for many years, and although I have seen results I have never seen them like I am seeing and feeling them now.

A little background of my struggles, at my highest I was 250 lbs (113 kg) and about 35-45% body fat. I was in pain, my knees hurt, hips ached and moving very slowly. I have always been an active person however I let myself go. Today I am 194 lbs (88 kg) and feel great, just not quite done yet. I would like to be below 10% body fat.

Today my appetite is completely manageable, my stomach feels good, my sleep the last couple nights has been the best in a long time, my energy is up, my mind is as clear as after a red bull, my cravings for carbs are gone, no cravings at all actually and I have to think about eating, where before I would finish a meal and latterly count the hours until my next meal.

I really think I have found a lifestyle change that will work for me and excited to share with those who want to hear.

How to start


What do you want, weight loss, maintaining weight or weight gain (lean body mass that is) To set a goal you first need to understand your body’s limits of caloric intake to sustain life (maintenance caloric level)

Here is a link to get your maintenance caloric level. http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/macronutcal.htm

I suggest getting the maintenance level not the fat loss level and do your own math. To lose weight cut 300-500 from the number you get (no more than 500) And I rounded everything so that it’s easy to do.

I have chosen a 16/8 fasting plan and to stop eating at 7pm or 8pm depending, and break my fast at either 11am or 12pm the next day; most of that time is sleeping.

Here are some key things I have researched and this seems to be the most common results.


No sugar, no BCAA (Leucine will break the fast by sending a signal to your brain telling it you are fed), no creamer in coffee, no (bulletproof) coffee the fats will be the main fuel source your body uses, just drink water.


Cardio only, I prefer to do my lifting/bodybuilding in a fed state.


This is for you and no one else, if something doesn’t work for you modify it. Also know that you will get out what you put in, so don’t be idiot about what you eat. Please do your own research. knowledge is part of the journey to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

I’m very excited to find something that works so well and isn’t a PAIN IN THE ASS like cutting out carbs, fats or limiting caloric intake. It has adapted seamlessly to my lifestyle and I really don’t even miss all the eating every 2 hours. The meal prep alone is worth it. Not having to worry so much about what I will eat, or even multiple meals to carry around.

Being the Best Version of Yourself


“You can’t cross the sea merely by standing and staring at the water”. – Rabindranath Tagore

I want to tell you about a man that I haven’t met yet, a man that when I hear the story’s it brings tears and inspiration to her as she tells them to me.

He was born January 1917, yes you read that right, and he will be 100 in a week. as if that is not inspiring enough just being 100, the life he lived and the age he decided to take action in his life is hard to comprehend . He began running and training for marathon running in his 50’s, Let that sink in.

How many 50 year old’s what to begin training for a marathon, well he did. He wanted to grow old and enjoy his family for as long as he could. I have the pleasure of meeting this man in 6 days, he is Jennifer’s father and sounds to me like an amazing man. I am very excited to shake the hand of a man that has impacted the woman heart that I love so deeply. As a father to daughters, i can only hope my daughters speak of me the way Jen speaks of her father.

You see, I have always struggled with my body. As a child I heard you’re too skinny, you’re too tall, I’m going to put a brick on your head so you stop growing, what did your mother feed you… You see to a skinny person, calling them skinny is exactly like calling an overweight person fat. I was 6’3 (75”) and about 165 lbs (74 kg) way less than 10% body fat for sure in high school, chicken legs, red hair, pale skin and no muscle tone to save my life.

Today I am a bit over weight in the 20-30% body fat; same height hovering right around 200 lbs (90 kg) that would be ok if it wasn’t the unhealthy fat (visceral fat)

I just want to explain my motives behind all the fitness, diet, fasting, food posts, posting workout check-ins and whatnot.

My family like many has fought and lost to cancer, heart disease and many other health related issues. WAY too many of my family members have died far too young. Genetically I can’t change my disposition, what I can change is my exercising, diet and lifestyle. Too often I see people as they get older slowly become warn out, achy, brittle and weak. If I can extend my life by a few choices now so that in the future I can take my grandchildren on vacations and enjoy it, what I’m doing today would be worth it.

I have been called crazy, addicted, self-centered, and many other things and that is ok. I’m trying to see what it is my body responds to. I’m learning that everyone is different, very different. What works for me may not work for you and my body loves to hold on to visceral fat (Belly fat) I am what you would call a skinny fat, No body fat other than my waistline (diet fat) so I study, try and experiment with things I read in search of a response I am looking for. I want to live a healthy life for as long as I can, that is why I do what I do, to look healthy, feel healthy and be here for my, well our girls and grandchildren for as long as I can and to do it as healthy as I can.

Spiritually, mentally, physically, and emotionally, I want to become the best version of myself that I can be.

Don’t Listen to my Words, Watch my Actions


 “Don’t believe me, I don’t want you to believe me but I want you to listen and make choices – your choices. If what I say, doesn’t work for you, leave it. But if it works for you and that’s what you want, then make it yours”. – don Miguel Ruiz

I wish I would have had the confidence to stand up and speak up for myself before 36 years old and to have understood this as a teen. For most of my life I have been submissive and just went with the flow, I don’t want to ruffle feathers; “I can’t cause turbulence in life“. This type of thinking is exactly what I do not want for my daughters.

Be strong and stand up to anything that feels wrong in your heart, follow that little voice and stay away from the crowds being herd like sheep.

(Don’t listen to my words, watch my actions; If I could help my daughters understand one thing about how people can be)

“I can lie to your face with beautiful words; I can make you believe anything with charm and my smile, I can make you believe what I want is what you want, but watch my actions and they will tell the truth every time”. 

Over the last couple years and through some immense life changes the little voice in my mind that bombarded me with sayings like, just take it, don’t say anything, shh it will be ok, listen to what they say because they are right began to die.  A much louder voice began to scream, it’s my life, if I don’t like something I won’t do it, if I don’t like someone they will know it, no pretending, no more rolling over and taking it. I chose my path and direction for my life and you do not have to agree with it but it’s a choice that I am choosing for once.

“Since you are the one who has to live with your choices, be sure they are your own”. – Alan Cohen

A warning about the choices we make. You better make sure you think your choices through, some choices are irreversible. However you can chose to make the best of everything and remain positive and life has a way of turning back around, as a matter of fact it can become far better than what your mind believes possible, today in my life is proof of that.

There’s always a choice, you can remain stuck in the wallows of self-pity and making a choice to give up or you can stand up and say “my life is worth more” and begin a new chapter in the book of life. I am so happy to have the opportunity to be an example of a loving man and father to my daughters; I pray that they see the good as well as the bad in my life as an example as they begin to make the choices in their lives, especially when it comes to dating and one day when they enter into a marriages of their own.

I’m far from perfect, and I’m learning to embrace that as well. I’m also learning daily more about this Scott Jenkins character and who and what he wants to be in the story of life. Thank you for being a part of it, even as a reader you are making a choice to enter into my story.

When Less is Enough, Life is Full


“What if Christmas, he thought, doesn’t come from a store, what if Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more”? – Dr. Seuss

All the shopping is over, the running and frantically searching for that perfect gift that will definitely show them you love them has come to an end for another year.

What do you buy someone when their hearts desire is your time, your touch, your compassion?

What can we give that without a doubt says I care, more than our time?

I’m not saying that gifts are bad, however, if their heart wants something different a gift can be empty.

There is not much that melts my heart like the letter I received from my daughter or a hug with emotion behind it. In the past I tried to get the newest, best and most expensive gifts, I explored the limits of the internet to find them, and at times missing out what was in the same room and free.

This Christmas I spent a fraction of what I have spent in the past, actually a fraction of a fraction and I noticed one thing, it truly is the thought that counts, the emotion that you can freely give and the time spent together over dinner.

“Regret is an appalling waste of energy, you can’t build on it – it’s only good for wallowing in”. – Katherine Mansfield

I regret so much but nothing compares to the time I have missed with my girls, fixed on the search for the perfect “something” and struggling to work on things that were out of my control. My eyes are wide-open and I’m SO thankful it’s not too late to grow a wonderful relationship with my girls.

Over the last year I have given up on all the planning, the striving to have more and a huge peace has come into my life, allowing so much room for other things. There are 5 days remaining in 2016, and I am really looking forward to 2017. I can honestly say that I have never been as happy as I am right now, and I have much less materially than I have ever had, yet emotionally more than I have ever had.

The Secret of Change


“Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections”. – Anonymous

I haven’t written in a while, I have been feeling a little blah and not really inspired by anything to write.

Over the last couple weeks I have been thinking a lot about this time of year and what it once meant as opposed to what it means today. Neither are negative so to speak, yet so contrasting one another and hard to grasp at times.

At the same time I’m processing the changes in my life I also have felt a huge drift from my girls, they are growing up. Daddy time is becoming less desirable, especially to my oldest daughter. Then it hits me, she’s a sophomore in high school quickly approaching the end of her sophomore year, which leaves two years of high school. I’m losing my first born baby and it’s tearing at my heart, I’m not ready to let go.

I know this is just another phase in life but I feel I can spend time with them now that it’s just the three of us. With over 75% of everything I do involving them what will I do with the time I have that is enviably coming?

Some of you may be saying “I’d be happy to see my kids go” well when you focused so much of your effort and time on trying to fix, maintain and hold together a relationship that was clearly not meant to work out and too often my girls were pushed aside. Now I have time and energy to focus on them, and I feel I missed so much. I truly believe everything in life is part of our journey that will either take us closer or further from what and who we are supposed to be, I really feel that my divorce was a blessing for both of us, and at times a hard pill to swallow.

Where does that leave my girls, stuck with decisions that they didn’t choose and don’t fully understand, living in another broken home, a blended family and wounds from me and their mother that will one day have to be explained.

I usually try to keep my posts positive; and I also have to be honest with my feelings. This time of year IS hard for so many people; I see that now that the holidays are full of joy and sorrow, and it’s a choice what direction we continue walking.

So let me bring it back, I now have energy to spend quality time with my girls and have a peaceful relationship to a woman that has had such a similar journey to mine, goals, passion and even how we think so alike. From the beginning we based everything on respect, honesty and our girls being the first priority, so for once I have the desire to make changes in my life and focus on me and the girls while having a relationship, it doesn’t have to be one or the other.

I feel I need to end this with things I am thankful for.

I’m thankful for the love my daughters have for me, even after everything they went through.

I’m thankful for the family I have that cares about me so much, not everyone has that.

I’m thankful for opportunities at work that have opened up and sent me in a new direction in the business world and helping me provide for my family.

I’m thankful for a relationship with love, respect and honesty; I have spent so much energy fighting.

My life is not at all what I had envisioned, and at the same time I’m thankful for how it has changed. I am looking forward to seeing my future play out, where I go and what I do. I still have some goals that have never wavered, one day I want to write a book, I want a little house on a lake to hide from the busy lifestyle, I want my daughters to never have to ask, and does daddy love me and I also want someone in my life that to share it all with.

For the first time in a very long time I am not looking forward to the end of something as much as the beginnings.

Day 1 – Let the Battle Begin


I have been going back and forth for a long time, weight fluctuating up and down for months. Today I’m beginning to watch and cut out sugars. I have been reading and it all comes down to sugars in your body that is determining weight gain or loss.

Carbs do play a role in this as they are converted into sugar, if not simple carbs and used up as a source of energy. Carbs area necessary part of your diet and needed just as much as lean protein in muscle growth, they just have a different job in helping your body. According to the American Heart Association (AHA), the maximum amount of added sugars you should eat in a day are:

  • Men:150 calories per day (37.5 grams or 9 teaspoons).
  • Women:100 calories per day (25 grams or 6 teaspoons).

In short not to add to the already flooded internet posts I’m cutting back starting today in hopes to lose a little of my belly fat by the beginning of Jan. if anyone would like to join me in this, support with information or simply follow my process please do. I have found much better success when you have people to help hold you accountable and want the same goals as you.