How do you show them

How do I show them I love them more than anything in the world when all they think is “he doesn’t even care“?

How do I show them, when the aggressive attitude complicates and dissolves most of the quality time we try to share.

How do I show them, when the words “I love you” fall short of touching their hearts like it did long ago.

How do I show them, when a hug fails to stir emotion.

How do I show the walking talking pieces of my heart that I never want to live without them in my life?

How do I show them, when it seems all they want is to get away.

Where did my happy little girls go, and who replaced them with these two little angry women.

Being a parent is by far one of the hardest things I have ever attempted, and this “learning as we go” thing is clearly over rated.

I know I fail more than I get it right, I know I mess up what I’m trying to say far more than I get the words right.

So how do I show them I care when they clearly have their minds made up I suck worse than anyone in the world.


You’re Not Tired, You’re Uninspired


This morning before my meeting I was having a very typical “get back into the gym talk” with a friend of mine. We were discussing how hard it can be to stick with the gym and in most cases anything that at one point you may have been on fire about.

For me it always becomes harder and harder to stick with my fitness and my goals when school starts back up and the cool temperatures begin to set in. Its much easier when you see people at the beach, feel the heat outside, and the sun on your face to be more health conscious.

He said “well, today is motivational Monday, and today’s motivational quote really inspired me to get back into the gym”.

“you’re not tired, you’re uninspired”… that it hit me, and he is exactly right.

All summer I see other men and compare myself to them and say to myself “see, that is a great physique” and it gives me a little motivation to get back into the gym. I watch more YouTube videos of healthy living, fitness and lifting when I feel inspired to reach my goals. When all the stress of life sets in I slowly drift from “My goals” to trying to manage everyone else life and after school activities. Eventually completely forgetting that healthy living, and fitness is just as important as eating and sleeping.

I hope this inspires you or at lease reminds you of what once was important is not any less important because other peoples lives are busy. Remember to keep your eyes on what you need to live a healthy life. Sleep, proper nutrition, and exercise is essential for healthy living. Find your inspiration again, whether its someone you know, someone on the internet, a movie star, or any of the thousands of people we see on TV. Let that spark your interest to become motivated again. Take a little time to look again, remember what you wanted when the fire was burning so intensely.

If you feel you “gave up”, don’t think of it as a failure, think of it as a break, and get back into it and start again.

Today is Monday, the beginning of a new week, a new day for you to say “it’s a good day to start again”, because you’re not tired, you’re uninspired.

In the words of Dwayne (The Rock) Johnson… “FOCUS”

Who Knew That Moving Could Be So Emotional

Tonight I’m mourning the loss of a piece of my past.

This is not an easy one to let go of like I thought it would be.

Tonight I say goodbye to my apartment. All joking aside. I’m taking a little time to remember the last 3 years and all that I have done.

I healed a broken heart, and in the process found a piece of myself that I never knew existed.

I found independence, I learned how to reach peace.

I was offered a highly demanding position that I may not have been able to dedicate myself to in the past.

So much has changed in the last 3 years, and the entire time I had a sanctuary to retire to at the end of the night.

A place to be alone, a place to shut out the world and through everything I learned to find comfort in silence.

A place for my girls and I to cry, and a place for the 3 of us to learn and navigate our new life.

I know this sounds like a down and depressing post, and part of it is. But that’s Real Life, and you can be happy and have a broken heart at the same time.

During all the life changes I found love again, we are now engaged and joining homes.

I’m so excited to join my life with such an amazing woman, and at the same time my heart breaks for the loss of a piece of me.

Sometimes it’s hard to let go, even when you see such an extraordinary future. The past fades away with time, but the changes made during that time guide the path for the future.

The Search, Healthy living Continues – Sugar in our Blood


Over the last few years I have been digging deeper and deeper into my health, fitness, strength training and physical activity levels and it’s very clear that the “healthcare professionals” are not always correct when it comes to diet, and healthy living. Please understand that I am in no way criticizing our healthcare system, however I truly believe that they are learning from very outdated material at best.

As new breakthroughs come to light and we learn the truths about the human body the material they continue to teach is just not being updated.

What we were always taught; Follow the food pyramid, you can’t eat after a certain time, fat makes you fat, breakfast is the most important meal of the day, and the 100s of things we thought to be fact are simply not fact at all.

Through my search for healthy living some things stand out as a huge difference from what we knew growing up.

  1. The food pyramid was partly created and modeled from the basic way to sustain life in our troops as they fight wars and battles. Years later we are still teaching the old, outdated, misconstrued information.
  2. Fat does not make you fat, mixing fat and carbs can cause us to over eat and to create a struggle for our body to breakdown the contrasting energy sources.
  3. The Breakfast myth, it is not the most important meal, in fact there is no most important meal at all. When you eat is not as important as what and how you eat.

Lately I have been focusing more on blood sugar and glycogen levels. Fat cannot be burned while you have a presence of insulin, and insulin is present when you eat hi glycemic foods such as some carbohydrates. I’m not saying carbohydrates are bad, they can be an amazing source of energy, however we over consume carbohydrates and do not live the lifestyles of the past. We are lazy, we do not farm our food, we have food 24/7 and really do not have to do any work to get the food. Our balance in life has tipped.

Today I began to track my blood sugar levels and dig deeper into how it impacts my body. I plan on testing how my body responds to foods, exercise, and the lifestyle I live. My goal is to understand a deeper level of how the things I put in my body affect my body.

Some of the tests I plan to do and possibly cover in Real Life / War on Sugar are to test my normal routine to get a baseline and incorporate some of the food I eat on a normal basis. Including cheat meals, alcohol, hi and low carb days as well as my intermittent fasting OMAD (one meal a day). I’m excited to see how my body processes the foods and drinks I intake.

Time To Try Something New


Some changes are so small you hardly notice them, day after day the small changes almost seem irrelevant to our lives, until the day the small things add up to the life changes that whispers to our heart “you know, nothing will ever be the same after this one”.

I use to live in fear of change, just keep it the same and nothing bad will happen. Day after day, living as if nothing can change that will make anything better. It’s strange how losing things can give you more and how sometimes we fail to see it as the best part of living. One day I will be too old and frail to make the big changes in life, and if I live life fearful of changes all I will have later is regret for not embracing the changes I wish I would have in my youth. Regret is a very hard pill to swallow.

I have said 2018 is going to be a great year, but I didn’t see this coming so quickly. Soon I will have join lives with 3 more girls, making our guy/girl ratio 5 to 1, well 6 to 1 if you count the dog, and the fish is even a girl i’m pretty sure.

Most men would cringe at the thought of having 4 girls, two at 13, one 15 and one 17 in the same house, but I couldn’t be more excited at the challenge and to be a part of the lives of some pretty great girls. This experience is nothing less than amazing when you think of the relationship we all have.

Imagine having a beer with your fiancees ex-husband, well its something I truly enjoy and look forward to when we get together at games and the girls events. Its an honor that I have his blessing to stand with him in the lives of his daughters. I know it takes a special man to hold that privilege. Now that is living, that is love and that is the example we want for our girls. I don’t care what you have done or who you are to me, respect me and my girls and I’ll respect you.

We are all human, we all fall down, its how you get back up and move on with a smile that sets us apart.

I have to be realistic, I know there will be some days I might want to buy a one way ticket to anywhere but here, however, it’s an honor to have the life I have. What a blessing to be where I am and with the people I have the opportunity to write more pages in the book of Scott.

I never thought I would leave Portage, but now I’m excited to try something new and open another chapter in life. I’m not sure what I’ll name this chapter but I’m sure its going to be full of many more Real Life posts. For now live full, love deep and let life come as it is.. Cheers to the next chapter.

Only For a Brief Moment


Some people come into our lives for a brief moment, some stay for years. Some enter our lives gentle and quiet and some come like a storm. The day I met the man referred to as “Barry“, I remember it like yesterday, and if you knew Barry, you will understand. Barry was an energy force all of his own.

The day we collided, we were standing about 10 feet apart on the beach watching our children play in the sand, no words, nothing but a glance and nod, “you know, manly acknowledgement” because “hello” was to hard to get out when you meet someone new.

It wasn’t long after that the 10 foot separation between us was now completely gone as we watched our children play together as proud fathers, almost saying to one another “look what I made” as we  talk about our children and how great they are.

They say people have energy about them, I fully believe this to be true. That day my energy met someone with the similar energy. As we began to toss jokes back and forth, most people do one of two things. One, they laugh, but clearly they do not get my sense of humor or two send a joke back and see if I get it. This to me is how funny people are different from normal everyday people. Funny is a language of its own, and my friend you spoke it amazingly well.

We spent the rest of that day sipping on “dad juice” and laughing until our stomachs hurt. I guess we passed the test, and our families met later that day. The rest of the weekend was a blur, as were the years to follow.

There are many stories, many long nights filled with laughter, late night random texts and phone calls.

“A butterfly lights beside us like a sunbeam.
And for a brief moment its glory and beauty
belong to our world.
But then it flies on again,
and though we wish it could have stayed,
we feel so lucky to have seen it.”

It all came to a stop to soon, and I miss you already my friend, I texted back but it was a day late. I called back, however the owner of the number is no longer taking phone calls.

So like many loved ones, I sit here and remember the times we shared, the nights I thought I couldn’t drink anymore, (but you proved me wrong) the laughter, the times our families were able to spend together.

I’d give all that up if I could have talked to you just one more time and tell you how much you impacted my life and that everything will be ok one day. We will never get to finish the conversation we started in the picture above and my heart breaks that I may have missed your quiet cry for help.

To everyone reading this, please do not struggle alone… ASK FOR HELP, it is a sign of strength not weakness. Even two little words can set in motion a cascade of help. “help me”. I do not know one person that if asked would say “no, I can’t help” to someone that needs it.

Life is a fragile and precious gift, its our duty as fellow humans to reach out when people are in that dark place, and to be the light in someones dark time. We all struggle from time to time, we all have been in dark places. Remember when you had help and be that to someone else.


Limitless Life, Allow Life to Expand and Contract


Life isn’t perfect, and it never will be; that is a fact. There are things in life that seem perfect, but deep down in the details of everything you will find a flaw, something wrong or an unmet expectation. However do not let that stop you from trying. Wanting something gets you nowhere, and having an expectation of reaching something by simply wanting it is the quickest way to feel stuck in life.

“If you want something to be different than it is, you might as well teach a cat to bark. Wanting something to be different than it is, is hopeless”. – Byron Katie

I can list thousands of things I “want” but it’s what I’m willing to “do” that I can reach.

I want my girls to have a better life than I did, so I give as much as I can in hope to guide them in that direction. In reality, its not up to me and I can only do so much, once I let go of the bike, it’s up to them to begin to peddle and balance. Expecting them to live perfect lives is unrealistic.

I want to learn how to love better, so I learn how I can love myself better and reflect that outward in turn attracting what I wish in my life. However, I cannot make someone love me, so expecting that will only lead to heartache.

Control what you can, learn from mistakes and never be afraid to start over, try again, say “I’m sorry”, and be vulnerable. Our world expands and contracts to the boundaries we set in our minds. Live limitless, try new things, forget expectations, and learn to embrace failure as part of life.

When Someone Hurts, Let Them Hurt


Learn to listen for the drop of the feather, don’t wait for the noise of the bomb; be quiet, be involved, learn to listen more and act less. I’m learning that I can’t listen and talk at the same time, and those who know me also know I like to talk.

In life there are times that take our breath away, equally good and bad. Most of us have seen our share of both, I’m sure you would agree. The changes in life that were the most impact in a positive way were the ones I learned to get through on my own and with my own willpower and determination. Whether it is my faith, the friends and family I surround myself with, and yes even the gym.

Who is it that you run to, what is it you turn to and why? Is it drugs, alcohol, sex, is it healthy or is it to fill a void. I have had my share of all of them and now I make healthy life choices. Its the gym, not the bar, its those who will tell me the hard things not what I want to hear. Now its because they have there life together and are in a place of security and safety. However, no matter who I run to, it ultimately was the decisions I made to overcome the situation and how I made the choice to get back up and thrive in life again.

So when they hurt, let them hurt, let their tears flow. I’m not saying do not be there for someone when they hurt, what I’m saying is hug them, comfort them, but let them hurt.

Realize we cannot fix anyone but ourselves, so instead of trying to fix it for them be the light in their life, be the positive influence, the constant rock, be the safe ear, the shoulder to cry on; But let them hurt.

It’s when we step out and try to fix someone else that our energy shifts, and expectations will most likely be missed causing the opportunity for both to feel damage. I have spent so much time in my life trying to fix other people that at times I forget to even look at myself.  I can be far more effective in others’ lives if I give the energy I would have put in their life to work in my own and to allow them to feel I am safe, a rock and security.

When the storm comes in the life of someone I love I can be the rock they lean on for comfort allowing them to catch their breath, focus on their faith, the process they choose and the healing they need.

Be the rock in someone’s life, be the soft heart, the shoulder to cry on, be the constant safety but let them hurt.

The Lies We Eat


With spring creeping right around the corner I have had many conversations with family and friends about dieting. Some think I’m crazy, some say I’m obsessed; maybe I’m a little of both. However what’s more crazy to me is the lack of basic knowledge about what we eat and how it is processed in our body. To me that is crazy

A diet, what is a diet? I truly dislike the word first of all, and all the word means is “what we eat” we literally all are on a diet or we would die. So I have learned to call it a WOE (way of eating). This is a term used in the Keto world and it makes perfect sense.

There are tons of WOE in the world today and I swear I have done them all. The best advice I can give is if you are looking to become healthy is to break it down to the basics.

Don’t jump on a “dieting bandwagon” because someone else is doing something, or because your doctor tells you to diet. I WOULD recommend talking with your healthcare provider, but learn for yourself what your body needs.

We are all totally different and for me to tell anyone what and how to eat is the lie the food industry has taken full advantage of. They don’t push processed sugar filled foods because they are healthy for us, they push them to line their pockets due to our addiction to sugars and carbs.

Fact: Sugar reacts the same as Cocaine in the brain and the “high” creates a craving that has us seeking higher levels of sugar and carbohydrate foods to maintain a steady “happy” feeling.

I can sit down and look at a few things that will help guide me to help you look in the right direction, and for you specifically. Be cautious if anyone gives you a print out, book, sheet of paper or anything without asking you questions about your activity level, goals, eating habits and a little family background.

What is good for me is specific to me, my body type, eating habits and lifestyle. Now that doesn’t mean what I am doing will not work for you, it simply means the specific details may be different.

  • Please research and learn about the foods you put in your body.
  • Whats the difference between Carbs, Fats and Proteins are.
  • Set reasonable goals that are specific to you, not what someone else is doing.
  • Don’t be afraid to talk about exercise, food and health in general.
  • Eating, sleeping and exercise should be a part of your life.
  • How does your body uses Carbohydrate, Fat and Protein.
  • How many calories are in each and how many should YOU have in a day/week. 

According to US and Global Obesity USA is 1st in Top 10 “Industrialized” Countriesfat.JPG

Healthy living should be something we teach our children and not frowned upon as something only the obsessed or the vain do.

Overcoming yesterday’s Perspective and Learning to Love Today’s Perspective.

Sometimes a step back is two steps forward. Today I had the opportunity and honor to film my 3rd training video of my career, and this being the first for Zoetis. Today really made me think about life and all my perspectives.

I have always had a dream of being a movie star and at this point in my life it’s just not feasible. At times that really shrinks what I think of myself and makes me ask myself, why am I living so small?

I could do so much more with my life, however who would Scott Jenkins be if I would have pursued acting more? Hundreds of questions flood my head when thinking “what if” and being something different in life. Would I have my girls, would I be married, would I have even married at all, would I even been successful enough to make a life out of acting.

I have no doubt that I could have done something in the world of acting, and today I feel like I’m enough, being content with my quiet little life.

No I’m not a movie star, but I’m one of the most important people in the lives of two beautiful girls, friend to many, loved by others and so much more. What would I have had to give up to peruse a career in acting? Maybe I did hit it big and I’m just thinking about it wrong. Perspective of what could be will always be there in the background of what I am today.

This morning during my morning chat with Jen it hit me, I have the best of both worlds.

I have done two other training videos that have been seen thousands of times for former Pharmacia, now Pfizer, regarding the L.O.T.O. (lock out tag out) training.

Today I added my third training video to the list for Zoetis. This Computer based training video will also be viewed by everyone that works for Zoetis Global today and plan to in the future.

Perspective; I am a star in my own way and can have my little life; the best of both worlds and way more fulfilling to my heart.

I really love little moments that ease the questions our heart asks and the chances we get to challenge our perspectives in life.

I have some many questions that need to be asked, and perspectives that I’m ready to challenge. I’m excited to see what 2018 brings, what questions are answered, and the perspectives I have the opportunity to change.

Today’s Perspective change: I’m not just the last choice in others lives, they choose me because I’m special.