A New Year to Set a REAL Resolution


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With the “New Year resolution” right around the corner, I just wanted to shed a little light on the number one topic of the new year, “getting healthy”.

Everyone wants to get healthy, but most have no idea what that even means.

So, they rush out to get a gym membership, start eating more salads, maybe some fruit, cutting out all the snacking and start a huge calorie restricted diet.

They get to the gym and jog for 20 min, break a little sweat, maybe lift a few weights and head home.

After 2 months of not seeing much change, they fall back into the easy lifestyle they had little by little. A snack here, a snack there and soon enough the gym becomes less and less a priority.

If this sounds familiar it’s NOT YOUR FAULT!

What if I told you it’s due to the fitness and a healthy living society being full of miss-information and people that are in it for the money, not a true desire to help people learn how to live a healthy lifestyle.

There is NO DIET that fits everyone.

The way you eat is 100% up to your lifestyle, genetic makeup, and goals. But it is also a part of learning to live a healthy lifestyle. Sleep, mental health, and stress are just as important as what you eat.

I have created a step by step guide to help set a goal that you can reach…

  • BEFORE you change anything, download a MACRO tracking app (example below)
    • MyFitnessPal
    • MyPlate
  • Use a Calorie Calculator to locate you “MAINTENANCE LEVEL” calories
  • Set your goal
    • Weight loss (get lean)
    • Muscle gain (Bodybuilding)
    • Strength training (Powerlifting)
    • Cardiovascular improvement (running a marathon)
  • Assess your current lifestyle and see what you can give up and when you can give time to dedicate 30-60 min a day CONSISTENTLY.
    • What are you willing to do?
    • When will you be able to do it without changing your entire life
  • Once you have set the foundation of your goal, the way of eating can begin.
    • What way of eating is best for you?
    • What should you do at the gym?

And this is where the work begins….

Feel free to email reallifewaronsugar@gmail.com and we can begin to narrow down YOUR needs.

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Growing From The Broken Times In My Life


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We have all had one at one point in our lives. I’m sure at that time it was the most helpless and painful feeling and speaking for myself I was not sure I was going to live through it; a broken heart. This is something I have wanted to write about for a long time but failed to put the words together, until now.

A little over 3 years ago, we spoke the word “divorce” and I won’t lie, I questioned life and everything I knew at that moment. I have never missed tucking in my girls, not one night, and we were about to have a conversation to divide parenting time. I never had to live alone or do anything alone for that matter.

I met my ex-wife before I was even out of high school and we were married at 19, pregnant at 20 and life took off from there. In June 2015, we decided to give up on 17 years.

We were all we knew for most of our adult lives, and with almost 15 years of marriage, two beautiful daughters, a house, a dog, and two cars, life was easy. When divorce entered, ambivalence is an understatement and I have never felt a level of confusion as I did when those words were spoken.

Sometimes the best growth happens through some of the worst times. I have learned more about myself in these last 3 years that I have in most of my adult life. I never had to search my heart and have had to go into the rooms in my heart that needed to be addressed, and I never had to learn to stand on my own two feet.

However, through this broken time in my life I have learned true forgiveness, I learned to follow my heart no matter what other people think, I found a little boy that never had to grow up and stand for what he believes and I found a new love, and a new love that matched my vibrations in life so well.

Today I hold nothing hurtful in my heart, I have totally forgiven and let go of all the anger and contempt. Today I feel I’m stronger and more honest to who I am in my heart. I am not the boy I was, today I am a man that is learning to say I was wrong, I have made many mistakes and to drop my pride and understand that I am far from perfect.

We are both in other relationships, however, we talk often, and are totally able to be in the same room with our new partners. I know so many broken relationships that cannot even talk on the phone to one another, and I’m so thankful that is not us.

My fiancée has sat with my ex-wife at our children’s sporting events and you couldn’t tell that they had the past broken relationships that they have. I have gone out with my fiancée’s ex-husband for beers and get along great with him. I cannot express how grateful I am for this and truly believe that spite and pride have no place in any relationship, broken or not. I hope our 4 girls can see and learn that forgiveness and life after heartbreak isn’t over.

I hope they see a better way to love through all our actions. The world doesn’t need more hate and anger, it needs more love and forgiveness.

To explain the depth of this picture (from left to right)

My ex-wife’s husband, my ex-wife, my fiancee, my fiancee’s sister, myself, and my fiancee’s ex-husband all in one picture.

That is how forgiveness and letting go of pride can change ANY relationship

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How I Healed Myself


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What if there was a way to solve all our health issues at the source rather than taking a pill to mask the symptoms with side effects…

There is a way, with the food we eat, the energy we use and the lifestyle we live.

I don’t want to preach, I want you all to look for yourself, try things and learn what is best for your lifestyle. We only get one life, do you want to live it sick and dependent on big Pharma to provide what you need or would you rather learn about what to eat, how to live and sustain your own lives.

True story about my life..

In the early 2000’s I found out I have Hashimoto disease after I reached a total weight of 250 lbs. I had NO energy and really felt like crap. I have struggled with my Hypo-Thyroid issues ever since. 2 years ago I found a life hack that allowed my body to balance out my hormones, and although the damage from Hashimoto has already been done, I can now take a lower dose of Synthroid and all the other numbers such as Cholesterol, (LDL and HDL,) Testosterone, and my fasting Glucose level are not only in a normal range I’m in an athletic mid 20-year-old range at the age of 38 years old.

My Dr. said, “I do not know what you are doing but you haven’t been this healthy since I have known you”… That said more than enough for me, and the journey I was already on really took off.

I began to heal my body from the inside, not add pills to my lifestyle. I did my research, I read 100’s of articles, watched 1000’s of videos and began to sort through the junk. Most of it came to the basic conclusion.

Carbohydrates are truly not a needed MACRO, The food pyramid is wrong, totally wrong and is extremely outdated. It is based on the Americanized Western diet to help the food industry sell our American top crop, Corn. Why teach people that they hold the power to heal themselves when the local economy would suffer tremendously.

I’m not into conspiracy theories, however, think about this..

We all begin to heal ourselves, all the sudden we cut back on the carbohydrates we eat, inflammation begins to be reduced, we can get off all the pills that mask the symptoms of an unhealthy diet, the insulin epidemic begins to decline, and big pharma has no reason to sell pills or drugs… We win, and they lose $100’s of thousands a year as well as the food industry.

I am not pretending I know everything, I only know what has changed my life and I would love to share it with anyone that is on the same path I was when I was sick.

I feel better than I ever have, I’m stronger, faster, and more muscular than I have ever been. My skin, hair, and nails are healthy. My thyroid levels are perfectly in the balance as well as all the rest of my “test numbers”.

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I have begun the long process of healing my body from the inside and would LOVE to share this information with the world.

Nothing Hurts More Than Regret


Nothing hurts more than the regret for the years missed, the apologies that we never had time to accept, for the forgiveness we never had the courage to grant.

Regret for letting “I’m too busy” separate what we had. I waited too long and now they are gone and I’m left with the regrets of what could have been healing, forgiveness and the years missed.

I let my pride stand in the small crack that our relationships had. I allowed my busy life to become my excuse for not addressing anything.

I lost my stepfather this week… A man that didn’t have to love me, but made a choice to anyway even though I was not his child. I haven’t spoken to him in many years due to my own pride. Now he’s gone and all I can think of is how much I want to tell him “thank you” for everything.

As I’m looking through pictures to find the right one I see all the loved ones I have lost, and many I have so many things I wish I could say to them.

This is a reminder to screw pride, let go of the feelings of who is right or wrong; life is too short.

One day everyone you know and love will be gone and you will be standing here with thousands of unspoken words for a loved one that is no longer able to hear them.

We Are More Than What We See


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What we all see when we meet one another is nothing more than a costume of skin, organs, bones, and blood.

Who we are is made up of a few things that cannot be seen by the eye, however, they can be seen in our actions, and those actions are controlled by our mind, heart, and spirit.

Our mind sets the goals of life, the dreams we have and projects the vision of our life to the other two influencers.

Our heart leads us through our relationships, controls our emotional health, and beliefs.

Our spirit is the fuel of all motivation and will determine when we give up and when we push harder towards what our mind sets as a desire in life.

We are more than what we see, and one thing is for certain. Our body will deteriorate as we get older, our organs can fail due to illness and abuse, our bones can break and blood can become contaminated with infection.

But the mind, heart, and spirit will begin and end per our willingness to feed them and allow them to grow.

Feed your mind, protect your heart, and release your spirit to be free. The only thing holding you back is the fear of the unknown.

What if we step out of our comfort zone? What if we quit our job that is no longer fulfilling? What if we walk away from that relationship? What if one day when we are older we look back and see all the regrets of things that were left undone, relationships that were left broken, or events that we are now incapable of doing due to the limitations of the body we gave so much power to.

Mental Monday, Learning to Decompress


Far too often we are quick to focus on the outside, our weight, our wrinkles, a tan, or our muscles. It seems vanity is more important than a lot of things that should be just
as high a priority.What about our mental wellbeing? When do we strengthen our minds, relax our nerves, decompress, get away and allow our mental wellbeing to recharge? Think of Mondays as Mental health Mondays, don’t fall into the trap of starting the week thinking “great, another Monday” think of it as a day to give yourself a break and ease into the week.

What about our mental wellbeing? When do we strengthen our minds, relax our nerves, decompress, get away and allow our mental wellbeing to recharge? Think of Mondays as Mental health Mondays, don’t fall into the trap of starting the week thinking “great, another Monday” think of it as a day to give yourself a break and ease into the week.

Suicide is real, it impacts nearly everyone you know. Was the pressure of life so bad that death seemed like a break. Was the torment of facing another day just not worth the
fight. We may never know why so many loved people commit suicide. Perhaps they couldn’t give themselves a break long enough to find relief.Starting today, Monday, October 29th I will be ending my Sober October focusing on my mind one day a week. Whether it’s a couple hour of nothing, reading a book, getting a massage, or the gym for an extra long time. Whatever recharges your mind, find time as often as possible to do it. Our mind is the foundation of our lives if we continually abuse it our lives will show it eventually.

Starting today, Monday, October 29th I will be ending my Sober October focusing on my mind one day a week. Whether it’s a couple hour of nothing, reading a book, getting a massage, or the gym for an extra long time. Whatever recharges your mind, find time as often as possible to do it. Our mind is the foundation of our lives if we continually abuse it our lives will show it eventually. Muscles do not grow while we are destroying them in the gym, they grow while we sleep. Rest is the secret of success.

Human Sex Trafficking does not take place like “in the movies”


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My daughter and I met with Rachel Glaser from WWMT to talk about one of the most feared yet misunderstood topics we face today.

Human Sex Trafficking does not take place like “in the movies”. Children are not taken from their beds in the middle of the night… They are lured out of their homes after many weeks or months of flirting or promises of a better life and all through the safety of their bedrooms. In most cases, they think they are doing the right thing.

Searching for love, connection and fulfilling the desire to make grownup decisions. They run away, they meet a “friend” for a party or any of the less theatrical ways children come up missing.

 

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How do you show them


How do I show them I love them more than anything in the world when all they think is “he doesn’t even care“?

How do I show them, when the aggressive attitude complicates and dissolves most of the quality time we try to share.

How do I show them, when the words “I love you” fall short of touching their hearts like it did long ago.

How do I show them, when a hug fails to stir emotion.

How do I show the walking talking pieces of my heart that I never want to live without them in my life?

How do I show them, when it seems all they want is to get away.

Where did my happy little girls go, and who replaced them with these two little angry women.

Being a parent is by far one of the hardest things I have ever attempted, and this “learning as we go” thing is clearly over rated.

I know I fail more than I get it right, I know I mess up what I’m trying to say far more than I get the words right.

So how do I show them I care when they clearly have their minds made up I suck worse than anyone in the world.

You’re Not Tired, You’re Uninspired


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This morning before my meeting I was having a very typical “get back into the gym talk” with a friend of mine. We were discussing how hard it can be to stick with the gym and in most cases anything that at one point you may have been on fire about.

For me it always becomes harder and harder to stick with my fitness and my goals when school starts back up and the cool temperatures begin to set in. Its much easier when you see people at the beach, feel the heat outside, and the sun on your face to be more health conscious.

He said “well, today is motivational Monday, and today’s motivational quote really inspired me to get back into the gym”.

“you’re not tired, you’re uninspired”… that it hit me, and he is exactly right.

All summer I see other men and compare myself to them and say to myself “see, that is a great physique” and it gives me a little motivation to get back into the gym. I watch more YouTube videos of healthy living, fitness and lifting when I feel inspired to reach my goals. When all the stress of life sets in I slowly drift from “My goals” to trying to manage everyone else life and after school activities. Eventually completely forgetting that healthy living, and fitness is just as important as eating and sleeping.

I hope this inspires you or at lease reminds you of what once was important is not any less important because other peoples lives are busy. Remember to keep your eyes on what you need to live a healthy life. Sleep, proper nutrition, and exercise is essential for healthy living. Find your inspiration again, whether its someone you know, someone on the internet, a movie star, or any of the thousands of people we see on TV. Let that spark your interest to become motivated again. Take a little time to look again, remember what you wanted when the fire was burning so intensely.

If you feel you “gave up”, don’t think of it as a failure, think of it as a break, and get back into it and start again.

Today is Monday, the beginning of a new week, a new day for you to say “it’s a good day to start again”, because you’re not tired, you’re uninspired.

In the words of Dwayne (The Rock) Johnson… “FOCUS”

Who Knew That Moving Could Be So Emotional


Tonight I’m mourning the loss of a piece of my past.

This is not an easy one to let go of like I thought it would be.

Tonight I say goodbye to my apartment. All joking aside. I’m taking a little time to remember the last 3 years and all that I have done.

I healed a broken heart, and in the process found a piece of myself that I never knew existed.

I found independence, I learned how to reach peace.

I was offered a highly demanding position that I may not have been able to dedicate myself to in the past.

So much has changed in the last 3 years, and the entire time I had a sanctuary to retire to at the end of the night.

A place to be alone, a place to shut out the world and through everything I learned to find comfort in silence.

A place for my girls and I to cry, and a place for the 3 of us to learn and navigate our new life.

I know this sounds like a down and depressing post, and part of it is. But that’s Real Life, and you can be happy and have a broken heart at the same time.

During all the life changes I found love again, we are now engaged and joining homes.

I’m so excited to join my life with such an amazing woman, and at the same time my heart breaks for the loss of a piece of me.

Sometimes it’s hard to let go, even when you see such an extraordinary future. The past fades away with time, but the changes made during that time guide the path for the future.